What did she mean by these comments?

How long do you know this friend of yours? If you know her for a long time, then it time to go straight forward to her. If she ever make any comments like that again, just ask her straight forward what that supposed to mean. Then talk it out. Sometime, people didn't even notice that their word may hurt others, but there also someone that purposely did it. So I hope your friend is the first type. Anyhow, talk to her don't let her hurt you by her word again. True friend can talk about everything...